I read an interesting article about the definition of true love and I think it will help us love properly. The author said true love should include four elements, including loving-kindness or benevolence, compassion, joy and freedom. Loving-kindness is not only the desire to make someone happy, but also the ability to do so. We need to understand a person’s deepest troubles and aspirations in order to love this person in a right way.
Compassion is the desire and the ability to ease the pain of another person. We need to look deeply into a person’s core and his nature of suffering in order to be able to help him to change. However, before helping another person, we should take care of ourselves so that we are mentally healthy enough to do so.
Joy should be present in true love. If you cry all the time or you make another person suffer all the time, it is not really love.
Lastly, when you love, you give freedom to the person that you love. The person whom you love should feel free both inside and outside. You should ask yourself if you give enough space to your beloved one and yourself to grow.