What kind of relationship do you have with your life, which is the present moment? Do I want the present moment to be my friends or my enemy? Once you have decided you want the present moment to be your friend, it is up to you to make the first move: Become friendly towards it, welcome it no matter in what disguise it comes, and soon you will see the results. Life becomes friendly towards you; people become helpful, circumstances cooperative. One decision changes your entire reality. But the one decision you have to make again and again – until it becomes natural to live in such a way.
So ask yourself, am I treating Now as no more than a means to an end? (i.e. Making the future concerns and moments more important than Now) Do I see it as an obstacle? (i.e.Treating Now as a world of problems that you need to solve before you can be happy) Am I making it into an enemy? (i.e. When you hate what you are doing, complaining and cursing about your surroundings or judging what should or shouldn’t happen) These three questions is an excellent way to unmask your ego and bring you into the state of Presence. Presence is the inner space, the awareness of the aliveness inside you.
Reference: “A New Earth” by Eckhart Tolle