Everyone has anger in the mind. Anger is a kind of strong energy that comes from unmet expectations. It starts from small irritations, like getting upset about not getting something that you want or getting something that you don’t want. Then these irritations accumulate and get stronger. As anger is a strong emotion, it is very easy to be noticed. It pushes us to punish the others because it causes so much pain in us.
The key to handle anger is not to get rid of it, but to understand it. The desire to get rid of it will add another layer of anger or turn the anger inside, which is guilt. So when it appears, we need to first acknowledge it. We don’t acknowledge it as “my” anger as it does not belong to us. And we don’t label ourselves as an angry person because everyone has anger inside. Whenever it arises, we just need to know that it is there and let it go. Then anger will reveal its true nature to us and become our greatest teacher.
Once we understand anger, it will not take over us. It will become just like other emotions that arises and falls away. We will know that there is no need to react to it or punish the others. We will take it less seriously. Anger will become like a visitor who does not stay long.
May mindfulness be with you,