No Self

I felt enlightened by a conversation that I had with my mentor. She is a Buddhist nun who used to be a medical doctor. I asked her how to refresh my mindfulness practice and manage my negative emotions better. She said, “Emotions do not belong to you.” 

“When people talk, it’s just sounds. And we are sensing and listening to these sounds. Self is a delusion. When we feel threatened, this delusion gets threatened. When we feel angry, this delusion gets angry. Anger is Nama, not yours or mine.”

I felt relieved and less guilty after listening to the noble truths. 🙂 Hope they will help you too.

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Humility- The Main Ingredient of Happiness

What is humility? Humility is an attitude towards life. It is the absence of self-centeredness even you have a blissful life. It is a feeling of gratitude and compassion towards everyone, including the less fortunate ones. 

It is a main ingredient of happiness because without humility we cannot appreciate the things we have in life. So we need to teach our children to be humble by thanking those people and all other living things who support their life. As Chinese always believe, don’t forget the root of our life. 

  
English translation: Never forget the root of the heart; Happiness and freedom will follow.

The Miracle Morning

 I just finished reading the book called The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod. I followed the 6-minute-miracle morning exercise and it really jump start my every day with a good mood! Ok so these are the things that I have been doing in the first 6 minutes of a day.

1. One minute silence (sitting meditation)

2. Set good intentions (be a kind, compassionate and patient teacher)

3. Do some stretching and power walk

4. Hydrate (drink 2 cups of warm water)

5. Send loving kindness to everyone and be grateful to what I have

6. Journal for a minute

I feel much alert and powerful after doing these activities in the morning. I just feel calmer and more purposeful throughout a day. Let me know if this work for you!

  

The Trapped Mind

When I was in Italy, I got an interesting question from the owner of the B&B. He asked, “When are we truly free?”

When I recalled the past, I have never been truly free from suffering. Certainly, there were quite a lot of happy moments. But I always felt kind of trapped by the conditions in my life. I am always unsatisfied about something and wish something will be different. I was never completely happy.

Today it suddenly dawned on me that I wasn’t trapped by my life conditions. I was trapped by the desire to have something more or less than the present. If I fully accept the conditions that I have right here and now, I am truly free and happy. I was trapped by the desire of the mind rather than the outside conditions. Unconditional self-love exists in the complete acceptance of the present.  

 
Reference of picture: foryourmiddleground.com

The Best Kind of Love for our Children

One of my wise friends said the love needed by our children is from different aspects. Parents can never provide enough love for our children. This advice is very true. 

In order for our children to grow happily, they need the love from parents, grandparents, siblings, teachers, and friends. Later, they need the love from their lovers, spouse, colleagues, bosses, etc. The more people love them, the richer their lives will be. As parents, we should accept and appreciate all of the people who genuinely love our children. Parents cannot replace the love from any of these people. So we have to learn to work with them as partners to help bringing up our kids happily. 

Happy Thai Children’s Day everyone!

  

The Depth of a Woman

The emotions of a woman run deep. We women develop our depth through experiencing all of our emotions fully. We are better at tolerating pain and that’s why we are moms. It is hard for a man to understand the process that women evolve.

A woman may appear as too sensitive or emotional. But this is what a feminine woman does. A real woman accepts and experience every emotion so that she can connect with other women. Women share her experiences in emotions with other fellow women so that they can nevigate life with grace and strength. This is how we accumulate wisdom.

When a woman expresses her emotions openly and gracefully without apologizing, she becomes irresistible to everyone around her. Emotion is the source of creativity and power for women. Embrace your emotions and develop self compassion, my fellow women. When you value your emotions, men will start to understand and value them as well.

Little kids

I feel so lucky to spend time with children every day as a mom and as an elementary school teacher. Young kids are amazing. They are so present, so pure, and so genuine all the time. They don’t judge. They see things as they are. They see the best in people all the time. They have a gentle heart and they are so open to love all of the living things in nature. They remind me of the good nature that everyone has. 

My children, thanks for teaching me so much every day 🙂 

   
 

That Little Girl Within Us

Every woman I kmow has a little girl inside them regardless of their age. That little girl is the feminine self, the warm and dreamy feeling that we have experienced when our boyfriend look at us with adoration. 

Don’t let that little girl go no matter what. Don’t destroy her when you get busy, want to get things done, feel disappointed, or feel hopeless. That little girl is the asset of women, the soft, gentle, open and fun part of the feminine self. 

That little girl is actually not sustained by the other people. We can keep her alive by doing something girly and fun every day, like putting on make up, dressing up, cooking, dancing, doing yoga, etc. It is just like the guys playing sports to feel masculine. 

Let’s feel, embrace and be feminine every day, my ladies. 🙂

  
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